Clash of the Tastebuds

February 18, 2008 at 5:07 pm Leave a comment

Relationships aren’t easy. Differing approaches to money or religion or politics can seriously tax even the strongest couple.

Now we can add food to that list of pressure points. Consider an excerpt from the the NY Times article I love you, but You Love Meat.

“Sharing meals has always been an important courtship ritual and a metaphor for love. But in an age when many people define themselves by what they will eat and what they won’t, dietary differences can put a strain on a romantic relationship. The culinary camps have become so balkanized that some factions consider interdietary dating taboo.”

I can totally relate to this! I’ve written before about how hard it is to watch my BF enthusiastically munch on pizza, burgers, nachos, and other “trigger” foods. Some days it’s a mild irritation; I can swat the urge to eat badly away like a fly. Other days it’s a brutal ordeal; it takes a nearly physical effort not to chow down with wild abandon.

For some couples, it’s an ethical issue. That’s not my situation, but it doesn’t make it any less difficult for me to deal with. Thankfully, my BF is well versed in my lifestyle change; he understands how important it is to me, and he’s very respectful of my choices. He doesn’t constantly push food on me or tell me that one bite won’t kill me. He always asks where I’d like to eat. I’ve also educated myself on the best choices at just about any restaurant, including fast food joints. I can pretty much go wherever he’d like and find a healthy option.

My problem is dealing with the cravings… the desire for “bad” food. I enjoy my nicely seasoned veggies and chicken breast when they’re the only thing in front of me. When I see ‘em next to a plate of fried chicken and macaroni and cheese, though, somehow they’re just not as satisfying. I feel deprived and cheated. I want to sink into that culinary comfort, even though I’m well aware that, in the long run, it’s not comforting at all.

Sometimes I give in. When I do, I try to enjoy it as much as possible. (Much easier said than done.) Most of time, however, I’m able to hold off and stick to the food that’s right for me.

I’m glad I’ve been able to deal with this pressure point for the most part. My BF is a great guy, so it’s worth the struggle.


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